Adopting a child brings great joy into the lives of both the parents and the child. While every adoption is different, there are some basic principles that all adoptive parents should follow.
It really goes without saying, but genuinely loving an adopted child will go a long way. It is especially important to show adopted kids that you love during moments of stress, such as after a big fight at home or a nasty episode at school.
As adopted children were abandoned by the first people who ever loved them, it is natural for them to worry about being abandoned again. Often times, this leads to trust issues. Adoptive parents must demonstrate that they are not ever going to desert them, and that they’ll never leave the child’s side. Keep your word and show them that you will always remain reliable and trustworthy people in their lives.
There will be people in many areas of a child’s life such as school, church, medical clinics and even other families who are not perceptive to the special needs that come with adoption. It is critical that adoptive parents advocate for their children. Don’t be afraid to ask and answer questions about adoption honestly in front of your child.
Most adopted kids want to learn about their biological family. It is best to be upfront about the details that you do know and allow them to seek out more information. It is also important to keep in mind that this curiosity does not mean that they love you any less. Many adopted children do not feel complete without this knowledge and will never be at peace unless they obtain it.