Things You Must Know While Planning to Adopt

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Adopting a child, no matter why you choose to adopt, can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life. Just ask any parent of an adopted child and they’ll likely tell you they could not imagine their lives any other way. However, the process of adoption is not always simple, and there are some things you need to know before you set out on your journey of expanding your family. The tips below will help you understand adoption and decide on whether or not right now is the right time for you and your family to adopt.

  • Always check out reputable adoption agencies. Reputable adoption agencies aren’t difficult to find, but many people don’t do their homework when it comes to adoption agencies, assuming they’re all legitimate and regulated in the same fashion. Before working with an agency, always check their license and make sure complaints and problems are not rampant.
  • Consider working with a foster care agency to help you find a child to adopt. The process of working with a foster care agency can seem a little bit more complicated, but you’ll be giving a child in need a good home.
  • Think about working with a mother who is currently pregnant to keep kids out of the foster care system. You’ll be able to make sure you have a healthy child and you’ll be able to form an immediate bond with your son and daughter as soon as they are born into the world.
  • Understand that adopting older children is a great thing to do, but that many children who have been waiting to be adopted for years may have emotional issues. These are of course something you can help them work through, but you do need to be prepared to help your child.

About Laurie Colton

Laurie Colton is the owner of A Is 4 Adoption, which is a licensed and bonded California based adoption facilitation center. Laurie and her dedicated staff are committed to answering all of your questions and concerns for the baby adoption process. She believes in providing all the necessary support to adoptive parents so that they make an informed decision and easy transition. She endeavors so that no parent will ever face the same pitfalls that she did while adopting her daughter.

Adopted Children Grow Up As Happy, Healthy Individuals: An Overview

There has been extensive research in the United States about adopted children and the families that takes them in. The vast majority of these children are happy and healthy in terms of both social and emotional well-being and they grow up to be content, successful adults. As much as 85 percent of adopted children are in good health and children age 6 and older also show positive social behaviors.

Adopted children have a number of benefits that are not as prevalent among the general population. Children who were adopted are more likely to have health insurance and live in households above the poverty line. Adopted children are also more likely to be read to and sung to on a daily basis, participate in extracurricular activities and perform above average in the areas of math, language arts, and reading. It is also interesting to note that more than two thirds of adopted children live with married parents, which is almost the same as biological children who live with married parents.

More and more families are becoming comfortable with the notion of open adoptions. Approximately two thirds of all families who adopt have pre-adoption and/or post-adoption meetings with the birth family. Nearly all children age 5 and older (97 percent) know that they are adopted. Children in open adoptions maintain access to medical, family and genealogical histories. They also have a better grasp over the concept of adoption and are generally more open about the topic with their adoptive parents.

Open and partially open adoptions come with a number of benefits for children including personal information and physical touchstones that are keys to identity formation. The ability to come to terms with their adoption, positive feelings towards birth parents and an appreciation for a supportive adult relationship is one of the many added advantages of adoption.

About Laurie Colton

Laurie Colton is the owner of A Is 4 Adoption, which is a licensed and bonded California based adoption facilitation center. Laurie and her dedicated staff are committed to answering all of your questions and concerns for the baby adoption process. She believes in providing all the necessary support to adoptive parents so that they make an informed decision and easy transition. She endeavors so that no parent will ever face the same pitfalls that she did while adopting her daughter.

Welcome Home: 5 Adjustment Tips to Help Your Adopted Child

adopted childWhen you adopt a child the process can sometimes be just as stressful and challenging for the child you are adopting as it is for you as the adoptive parents.

Making the transition from orphan or unwanted child to one that is welcomed with open arms and showered with love can often be difficult for some children, especially if they are no longer infants or toddlers. At the same time, learning a foreign language can cause your child a great deal of stress and insecurity if you don’t help them adjust to their new life.

Here are a few tips to help you make your adopted child’s transition into one that is as stress-free and joyous as possible:

1.    Reassure your adopted child that he or she is very special and loved and they don’t need to fear being deserted if they’ve earned your displeasure.

2.    Establish things in your home as belonging solely to your adopted child. When they have a way to establish a location as theirs, it can help them identify with their new home and new family.

3.    If your child is of a different ethnicity than your family, determine in advance how you will respond to inquiries about your child’s background. Provide your child with a way to positively respond to other children or adults who ask questions.

4.    Include your adopted child in all family activities that a child should be involved in. This will enable the kid to easily adapt as a part of the family.

5.    Always keep the lines of communication open so your child will know that they have access to you whenever they feel necessary. Making your child feel at home will take time but if you put forth the right effort, you can make their transition into your family home and lifestyle as stress-free and easy as possible.

About Laurie Colton

Laurie Colton is the owner of A Is 4 Adoption, which is a licensed and bonded California based adoption facilitation center. Laurie and her dedicated staff are committed to answering all of your questions and concerns for the baby adoption process. She believes in providing all the necessary support to adoptive parents so that they make an informed decision and easy transition. She endeavors so that no parent will ever face the same pitfalls that she did while adopting her daughter.

How to Make Adoption Ideal: An Adoptee’s Perspective

baby adoptionAdopting a child brings great joy into the lives of both the parents and the child. While every adoption is different, there are some basic principles that all adoptive parents should follow.

Love

It really goes without saying, but genuinely loving an adopted child will go a long way. It is especially important to show adopted kids that you love during moments of stress, such as after a big fight at home or a nasty episode at school.

Trust

As adopted children were abandoned by the first people who ever loved them, it is natural for them to worry about being abandoned again. Often times, this leads to trust issues. Adoptive parents must demonstrate that they are not ever going to desert them, and that they’ll never leave the child’s side. Keep your word and show them that you will always remain reliable and trustworthy people in their lives.

AdvocacyAdvocacy

There will be people in many areas of a child’s life such as school, church, medical clinics and even other families who are not perceptive to the special needs that come with adoption. It is critical that adoptive parents advocate for their children. Don’t be afraid to ask and answer questions about adoption honestly in front of your child.

Openness

Most adopted kids want to learn about their biological family. It is best to be upfront about the details that you do know and allow them to seek out more information. It is also important to keep in mind that this curiosity does not mean that they love you any less. Many adopted children do not feel complete without this knowledge and will never be at peace unless they obtain it.

About Laurie Colton

Laurie Colton is the owner of A Is 4 Adoption, which is a licensed and bonded California based adoption facilitation center. Laurie and her dedicated staff are committed to answering all of your questions and concerns for the baby adoption process. She believes in providing all the necessary support to adoptive parents so that they make an informed decision and easy transition. She endeavors so that no parent will ever face the same pitfalls that she did while adopting her daughter.